Curiosity Might Not Be Good for a Cat, but Find Out Why It Will Improve Your Relationships

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Curiosity Might Not Be Good for a Cat, but Find Out Why It Will Improve   Your RelationshipsConflict is inevitable in pretty much any relationship. Whether it’s your partner, a boss, a co worker, a fellow student or someone who just cut you off in traffic, people are going to bug us. Rather than lash out and unload on them, no matter how much you feel they deserve it, I’m trying another approach lately. I try to step back, take a deep breath and get curious. I get curious about what’s behind their actions. I ask questions in my mind. Are they tired, hungry? Could it be that they’re upset about something else and it’s just spilled over onto me? Is the reason they cut me off in traffic is that they’re in the middle of an emergency and they need to get help? These kinds of curious questions help me to calm down and not allow the situation to escalate. Try it next time someone cuts you off in traffic. Get curious.