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Diet Cola and Another Perspective

Diet Cola and Another PerspectiveI love Diet Cola. I know- not the greatest thing for me, but listen to this example from my guilty pleasure. I was sitting with a client once with my Diet Cola can on the table between us. She was having difficulty seeing things from her husband’s perspective. I picked up the can and said, “Describe what you see on the can for me.

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Why People Stop Talking

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Why Saying “Ouch” Might Heal Your Relationships

Why Saying "Ouch" Might  Heal Your RelationshipsI've had the privilege of working as a therapist for over twenty years and if there’s one thing I've learned about relationships, it’s that we’re going to hurt one another. It’s not a matter of if but when.

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Why Seeing Doesn’t Necessarily Have to be Believing

Why Seeing Doesn’t Necessarily Have to be BelievingSometimes seeing isn’t believing. In other words, what you’re looking at- what you think your seeing- isn’t the truth at all. Let me give you an example:

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Curiosity Might Not Be Good for a Cat, but Find Out Why It Will Improve Your Relationships

Curiosity Might Not Be Good for a Cat, but Find Out Why It Will Improve   Your RelationshipsConflict is inevitable in pretty much any relationship. Whether it’s your partner, a boss, a co worker, a fellow student or someone who just cut you off in traffic, people are going to bug us.

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How Blue Sky Can Improve Your Relationships

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Why Moving Your Hands Can Quickly Ease Anxiety

Why Moving Your Hands Can Quickly Ease AnxietyYou step up to the microphone, the front of the boardroom or that unpleasant phone call you need to make and your heart rate elevates to an almost unbearable rhythm. You can feel the blood flow out of your brain and the room starts to get blurry.

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How to Make Healthy Choices When Core Hurts Are Triggered: The ME Model

This blog post discusses the “ME Model”. This is a model that I have been working on for years from my work and observations at CAFA.  We have been covering this Model in our Marriage Class, but it has great application for individuals in any stage of life as they understand their sense of self and how they react to events in life.

 

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A Cup of CAFA: Some thoughts from Carolyn

CarolynProbably the greatest desire of my life, especially in these later years is to help create a safer place for children here in Lane County. But how do we do that? Well one of CAFA’s priorities is to start by helping create safer parents. I feel so privileged and pleased to be able to work with so many who have walked through CAFA’s doors in order to get help.

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