I love Diet Cola. I know- not the greatest thing for me, but listen to this example from my guilty pleasure. I was sitting with a client once with my Diet Cola can on the table between us. She was having difficulty seeing things from her husband’s perspective. I picked up the can and said, “Describe what you see on the can for me.
I've had the privilege of working as a therapist for over twenty years and if there’s one thing I've learned about relationships, it’s that we’re going to hurt one another. It’s not a matter of if but when.
Sometimes seeing isn’t believing. In other words, what you’re looking at- what you think your seeing- isn’t the truth at all. Let me give you an example:
Conflict is inevitable in pretty much any relationship. Whether it’s your partner, a boss, a co worker, a fellow student or someone who just cut you off in traffic, people are going to bug us.
You step up to the microphone, the front of the boardroom or that unpleasant phone call you need to make and your heart rate elevates to an almost unbearable rhythm. You can feel the blood flow out of your brain and the room starts to get blurry.
I know that it would be an understatement to say that anxiety can really impact a person’s daily life. I see a number of clients who deal with anxiety and are looking for some type of relief. A lot of these clients don’t want to go on medication and are looking for natural ways to alleviate anxiety and its symptoms. I have alway
If you think back to your high school days, remember the brainiac, the one who aced every test and had SAT’s scores that were the envy of all the class. They probably had an IQ score close to Einstein’s.
Everyone experiences anxiety from time to time. It’s normal to get symptoms like butterflies, heart palpitations or shortness of breath. Our bodies have a built in fight, flight, or freeze response to danger.
Probably the greatest desire of my life, especially in these later years is to help create a safer place for children here in Lane County. But how do we do that? Well one of CAFA’s priorities is to start by helping create safer parents. I feel so privileged and pleased to be able to work with so many who have walked through CAFA’s doors in order to get help.
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